I’m Losing It


One day last week Brittany, the kids, and I were out spending the day together. I was driving as I normally do. That’s what manly men do right? They do the driving. It’s a given norm to our society. It’s not manly to let the female drive, right? Well, she drives on long trips because she loves to drive and I cant stand driving more than 23 minutes straight. Ok, I’m getting off task. It’s the A.D.D. in me I suppose hence the reason I don’t like to drive more than 23 minutes. Ok, back to the story.

I noticed Brittany kindly letting me know where parking spots were, letting me know about on coming traffic, when the light was green, and to not look at my phone while driving. Finally, I stopped, and abruptly said, “Who’s driving?” We just giggled and enjoyed our day but I may just have to look into having a new law passed and provide her with the first Back Seat Drivers License.

You see, I drive everywhere, every day of my life. Even when we are together as a family, I do most of the driving. But on this fine day, I noticed I couldn’t “just drive.” I had a beautiful assistant looking around for me, looking both ways for me, telling me when to stop, telling me I was going too fast, and “helping” me know when the light was green, all while she would hit the fake brake on her side, clinch the door and create a body language that communicated she was in the passenger seat with a Nascar driver. My wife is honestly a good driver but I have gotten so accustomed to driving that I ultimately had a very difficult time adhering to the support I was being offered.

It’s the same way in our daily lives isn’t it? We have gotten so accustomed to our routines, live in a society that caters to self, have built a culture of self-sufficiency, that it has created an obligation for control. Now in normal daily life, this is acceptable as it helps develop responsibility and commitment. However, it has created an ugly mammoth problem in the greatest aspect of our lives. Spiritually, we limit the power of God and settle in our faith because we feel the need to control so many aspects of our lives instead of surrendering them to the One who can do far more than us anyway.

We feel we must make things happen, make things work, fix problems, and have control over situations. This one is a difficult one for me because I tend to be a control freak. I have had to learn the hard way to render control to people who can perform the task better than I can. We see the need for control damages marriages, business relationships, ministries, and ultimately the Christian believers life in general.

Why is this the case? FEAR

We fear the unknown. We battle with what the outcome of a situation will look like if we don’t try to control it. We are afraid of what doors may open in the situation if we don’t steer it the way we think it needs to go.

What does this fear cause? SETTLING

When we don’t relinquish control into the hands of the King of Kings, it causes us to settle in our faith and miss the great opportunities He has designed for us. We don’t allow the Holy Spirit to do what only He can because we take the driver seat away from Him.

How can we squelch fear and stop the settling? Lose Control!

How To Lose Control

  1. Faith Feature!

Increase our faith! Faith is not just trusting in the Father but trusting in what you do not see.

In Acts 1:6-8 we see the disciples eager to know what Jesus has never told them and then we see a significant answer that not only applies to impacting the world but also impacting our personal lives so we can impact the world.

“Then they gathered around him and asked him, “Lord, are you at this time going to restore the kingdom to Israel?” He said to them: “It is not for you to know the times or dates the Father has set by his own authority. But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you; and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth.”

While the disciples had good intentions, this was forbidden knowledge for them to have because faith was needed. If he provided them with the knowledge right away, it would not require them to have faith.

  1. Create Courage

Increase our courage. Jesus provided the disciples with the training they needed for the journey ahead before He was crucified as well as after His resurrection. Now it was time for Jesus to return to the right hand of the Father and for the disciples to apply that training.

You see, God has provided us with the training and strength to be able to operate in any journey we have ahead of us. We don’t need to apply more to the journey in order to control it to align with what we believe the outcome should. Instead, we trust the Lord as we take the steps ahead of us and have the faith that in the unknown, He will carry out a much greater will than our own.

  1. Freedom Forever

Increase our freedom. Instead of living in bondage to the need for control in our lives, God desires for us to experience freedom. We only do that that when we lose control. Your life will be much less stressful because you are genuinely trusting the Lord. Your life will be more simplistic because you don’t have to know what is going to happen before it happens. You take the pressure off of yourself and place it in the Hands of the One who can and will take care of it.

When we learn to lose control, our relational vision, marital vision, leadership vision, ministry vision, and life vision will be greatly increased and focused.

Have a great day as you begin losing it!

When Your Past Consumes Your Future

Breaking The Chains Of The Past

Is your past hindering your future? 

Do you feel shackled? 

Is your joy being robbed by the haunting of what happened to you in your past? Are you having a difficult time overcoming that barrage of emotions and thought processes that overwhelm you as past occurrences creep into your mind? Do you desire rescue from your island of despair? 

First, let me tell you that you are not alone as I have had seasons through my life where I could be in the same boat as you. Feeling like I had lost the paddles and just wandering around in a large body of water without any ability of getting back to land where I’d be secure once again. Allowing the current of my emotions take me in directions I couldn’t control nor wanted to go. Fear, shame, loneliness and unworthiness entered my world in those moments. 

I am unbelievable grateful for these experiences that have taught me great lessons, developed character, and taught me to pray without ceasing. As a result of my personal victories in this area, I’d like to offer you a bit of encouragement and direction for your weary journey

In these seasons where you feel like your about to drown, you fall into the temptation to take on full blame feeling as it is all your fault. Of course, many of the past hurts aren’t our fault while some current consequences are the fault of our past decisions. You’ve understood that Jesus is always there to throw the life vest but grabbing hold of it seems harder than it appears. Now, your reduced to a scared, insecure person who sometime assumes your not good enough to experience the rescuing power of Jesus. Friends and family say to just move on, grow up, and get over it. We that have been there know that this isn’t the best advice. 

What Do You Do When Your Past Overcomes You? 

I want to offer you the HOPE that I cling to and has helped me overcome my past. 

Before we go any further, read these verses and allow their truth to sink deep within your soul. Read them multiple times until you feel the sweet presence of the Holy Spirit around you. 

“Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? And not one of them is forgotten before God. Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows.” Luke‬ ‭12:6-7‬ ‭ESV‬‬

~You Are So Very Worthy~

“And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” Romans‬ ‭8:28‬ ‭ESV‬‬

~Live, Dream, & Believe Big, Because God Wants To Use Your Life~

1. Go On A Treasure Hunt: Treasure can be found in your dirt. Brush it off and cling to the King of your life. The Word Of God is the only place to find the treasure to bring Hope in midst of trying times. Decide today to consistently get into the Bible and let the words dive deep into your heart and soon you will see that it will overflow into every place of your life. 

2. Healing Is More Than A Feeling: God wants to bring healing to your life but you cannot afford to continue rehearsing and rehashing the past. Practice His presence in your life. He is always there to lean on and lean into. Learn to lean on the Holy Spirit whom is right beside you every second of your day. Decide today to not give into the emotions that surge during trying times but instead talk to your closest friend who never leaves your side. Pray without ceasing…meaning…every time the emotions rise up, talk to the Father and let His presence comfort you. 

3. Begin Exposing The World to the Gift You Were Created To Be: One of the greatest ways to overcome your past and break the chains of bondage is to put your focus on others. Become an encourager, begin praying for people, and discover ways to serve those around you. Decide today to live in the Victory achieved on the cross. Jesus conquered sin on the cross. Tap into that life giving power and surrender your all to Jesus. 

“Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.”  ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭5:15-16‬ ‭ESV‬‬

Your destiny as a bright star is on the horizon. You were made to shine. I see the need for people to wear sunglasses when around you in the coming days. 😎