I’m Losing It


One day last week Brittany, the kids, and I were out spending the day together. I was driving as I normally do. That’s what manly men do right? They do the driving. It’s a given norm to our society. It’s not manly to let the female drive, right? Well, she drives on long trips because she loves to drive and I cant stand driving more than 23 minutes straight. Ok, I’m getting off task. It’s the A.D.D. in me I suppose hence the reason I don’t like to drive more than 23 minutes. Ok, back to the story.

I noticed Brittany kindly letting me know where parking spots were, letting me know about on coming traffic, when the light was green, and to not look at my phone while driving. Finally, I stopped, and abruptly said, “Who’s driving?” We just giggled and enjoyed our day but I may just have to look into having a new law passed and provide her with the first Back Seat Drivers License.

You see, I drive everywhere, every day of my life. Even when we are together as a family, I do most of the driving. But on this fine day, I noticed I couldn’t “just drive.” I had a beautiful assistant looking around for me, looking both ways for me, telling me when to stop, telling me I was going too fast, and “helping” me know when the light was green, all while she would hit the fake brake on her side, clinch the door and create a body language that communicated she was in the passenger seat with a Nascar driver. My wife is honestly a good driver but I have gotten so accustomed to driving that I ultimately had a very difficult time adhering to the support I was being offered.

It’s the same way in our daily lives isn’t it? We have gotten so accustomed to our routines, live in a society that caters to self, have built a culture of self-sufficiency, that it has created an obligation for control. Now in normal daily life, this is acceptable as it helps develop responsibility and commitment. However, it has created an ugly mammoth problem in the greatest aspect of our lives. Spiritually, we limit the power of God and settle in our faith because we feel the need to control so many aspects of our lives instead of surrendering them to the One who can do far more than us anyway.

We feel we must make things happen, make things work, fix problems, and have control over situations. This one is a difficult one for me because I tend to be a control freak. I have had to learn the hard way to render control to people who can perform the task better than I can. We see the need for control damages marriages, business relationships, ministries, and ultimately the Christian believers life in general.

Why is this the case? FEAR

We fear the unknown. We battle with what the outcome of a situation will look like if we don’t try to control it. We are afraid of what doors may open in the situation if we don’t steer it the way we think it needs to go.

What does this fear cause? SETTLING

When we don’t relinquish control into the hands of the King of Kings, it causes us to settle in our faith and miss the great opportunities He has designed for us. We don’t allow the Holy Spirit to do what only He can because we take the driver seat away from Him.

How can we squelch fear and stop the settling? Lose Control!

How To Lose Control

  1. Faith Feature!

Increase our faith! Faith is not just trusting in the Father but trusting in what you do not see.

In Acts 1:6-8 we see the disciples eager to know what Jesus has never told them and then we see a significant answer that not only applies to impacting the world but also impacting our personal lives so we can impact the world.

“Then they gathered around him and asked him, “Lord, are you at this time going to restore the kingdom to Israel?” He said to them: “It is not for you to know the times or dates the Father has set by his own authority. But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you; and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth.”

While the disciples had good intentions, this was forbidden knowledge for them to have because faith was needed. If he provided them with the knowledge right away, it would not require them to have faith.

  1. Create Courage

Increase our courage. Jesus provided the disciples with the training they needed for the journey ahead before He was crucified as well as after His resurrection. Now it was time for Jesus to return to the right hand of the Father and for the disciples to apply that training.

You see, God has provided us with the training and strength to be able to operate in any journey we have ahead of us. We don’t need to apply more to the journey in order to control it to align with what we believe the outcome should. Instead, we trust the Lord as we take the steps ahead of us and have the faith that in the unknown, He will carry out a much greater will than our own.

  1. Freedom Forever

Increase our freedom. Instead of living in bondage to the need for control in our lives, God desires for us to experience freedom. We only do that that when we lose control. Your life will be much less stressful because you are genuinely trusting the Lord. Your life will be more simplistic because you don’t have to know what is going to happen before it happens. You take the pressure off of yourself and place it in the Hands of the One who can and will take care of it.

When we learn to lose control, our relational vision, marital vision, leadership vision, ministry vision, and life vision will be greatly increased and focused.

Have a great day as you begin losing it!